Do you know your attachment style?

Attachment theory explains three main attachment styles related with perception of closeness and reactions in adult romantic relationships. Those are secure, anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Everyone in the society has one of these attachment styles, and very rarely the mixture of the last two (anxious and avoidant).

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Attachment theory explains three main attachment styles related with perception of closeness and reactions in adult romantic relationships. Those are secure, anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Everyone in the society has one of these attachment styles, and very rarely the mixture of the last two (anxious and avoidant). Our attachment style explains the range of conditions within a relationship ranging from our reactions and problems within a relationship. Therefore for each individual it is important to learn and understand their own attachment style. So let’s unreveal the attachment styles and get to know our attachment mechanisms.

SECURE ATTACHMENT

Individuals with secure attachment are usually full of love, don’t afraid of closeness, and content with their relationships. They don’t have difficulty showing compassion to their partners. Without the fear of rejection they can share their opinions and feelings with their partners. They are solution oriented and when they argue with their partners they don’t question the entire relationship. They are not jealous, don’t dramatize the situation and make it bigger.

ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT

Individuals with anxious attachment style worry that their partner will not love them. They have the fear of abandonment. When their partner is away, they are afraid that the partner will meet someone and be interested in. Their relationships are the main focus in their lives and think so much about their relationships. They can quickly attach to their partners and get affected by the psychology of their partners. If their partner acts cold or distant, they think they have done something wrong. They worry that they are not attractive, beautiful, handsome, fun or clever enough. They tend to be reactive in the moment of discussion and display behaviours they will regret later.

AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT

Individuals who equalize closeness with loss of freedom have avoidant attachment style. They have difficulty meeting the emotional needs of their partners. They value independence and prefer not to share the deepest feelings. They have difficulty to trust. Instead of being with a single person, they prefer superficial and one-night stand kind of relationships. They feel anxious when their partners get closer. When their partners are away, they miss; however, when together, they avoid. They attribute the unsuccessful relationships to their partners.

When you look at your relationship past and approach your relationships which of these three you feel like having?

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• attachment style
• relationships
• love
• attachment
• couple